Consequences in the context of foster care and adoption

“But they can’t get off scott-free!” I frequently hear reactions like this from parents in response to their children’s baffling behaviors. “X behavior isn’t okay!” I hear this, too. Misbehavior is not okay. It is still wrong. Behavior makes sense in context, though. If caregivers can understand why children are engaging in this misbehavior, then they can consider consequences, and if consequences …

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Your mind is a garden

There are two basic parts of gardening: to nourish and to protect. The same goes for mental health. Let’s say your mind is a garden. The positive thoughts are the flowers and healthy plants. The negative thoughts are the weeds and pests that come to consume. Just like you plant your flowers …

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Transitions as part of therapy

Therapy is usually a process. As such, it usually entails a series of appointments spread over the course of time. These appointments are not life, but they become part of life. As part of life, transitions to and from therapy sessions become important.  Clients should try to set aside ample time to …

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Disenfranchised Grief: When loss is belittled, bottled up, or forgotten

When you hear the word “grief”, it is likely that it is promptly followed by the thought of death, sorrow, or mourning. Perhaps it even conjures memories of lost loved ones and your own personal experiences of loss. What happens, though, when you find yourself experiencing all of the emotions …

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