Words Matter

Words. We say a lot of them every single day. They matter. We might realize that as a whole, but do we ever think about individual words and ways we talk about things? Sometimes the minutiae matters, as it does with words. There are probably an infinite number of examples, …

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What EMDR Doesn’t Do 

As an EMDR therapist, I get lots of questions about what EMDR is, and what EMDR does. In answering these questions, I sometimes have clients ask me if EMDR can help them do specific things with memory, like uncover repressed memories, or even erase memories. On the flip, side I …

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Ways to Build Emotional Fluency

Naming emotions can be hard, especially if a person has experienced abuse, neglect, and trauma. In traumatic situations, there is not room for emotions, only room for fight-flight-freeze survival responses. Acknowledging emotions is vulnerable, too, as emotions can be exploited. Emotions are a pathway for connection with other humans, though. …

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Couples’ Attachment Styles 

Couples can experience a push-pull dynamic, or any variety of other patterns not understood. Does it feel like you are just living together going through the motions but not connected? Maybe you want to be more intimate with your partner, but they don’t seem interested. Maybe your partner takes differences in …

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Self-Protection is Biologically Good!

Protective instincts are good. They are God-given. They keep human beings alive. Protective impulses can go into overdrive, though, and when that happens, non-productive behaviors can occur. When others see these behaviors, they may judge them as maladaptive, bad, or even morally wrong. Upon further examination, however, it becomes apparent …

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