Self-Protection is Biologically Good!

Protective instincts are good. They are God-given. They keep human beings alive. Protective impulses can go into overdrive, though, and when that happens, non-productive behaviors can occur. When others see these behaviors, they may judge them as maladaptive, bad, or even morally wrong. Upon further examination, however, it becomes apparent …

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How EMDR Fits with the Christian Faith

EMDR, or eye moment desensitization and reprocessing, is a relatively new counseling technique. Discovered by Francis Shapiro in 1987, it has since been validated by numerous empirical studies (Rodenburg, 2009; Shapiro, 2014; Shapiro, 2018; Wilson et al, 2018). While not explicitly a Christian therapy, EMDR fits very well with the …

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Rituals for Connection

Connection is just not a good thing. Connection is vital for kids, especially for kids from hard places. As Robyn Gobbel (2021) says, “Connection is a biological imperative.” Connection is the means by which kids can begin to securely attach (Gobbel, 2021). It is the means by which kids receive …

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What is Therapy Really About?

What is therapy really about? Clients often ask this question, especially if they are child clients, or clients otherwise referred to therapy. Well, as you might expect a therapist to answer, it depends. Therapy might be about something specific. It might be about a relational problem. It might be about …

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Adjuncts to Therapy

Foster and adoptive children have lots of needs. Sometimes big needs. Not because they are bad kids but because bad things happened to them, and now they need lots of support in order to heal. Attachment and trauma therapy can help children in many ways. It can help children connect …

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Name it to tame it

The emotion comes up. Stuff it down. The tears well. Wipe them. The anger boils. Cool it. Trying to get rid of emotions is an instinctual human response. Whether caught or taught, the idea that emotions can be dangerous permeates society. The way people act based on emotions can be …

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Attachment over achievement

Many kids in foster care or adoptive placement struggle with higher level thinking. They cannot remember what caregivers tell them to do from moment to moment. They consistently repeat behaviors that no longer serve them (e.g. gorging, hoarding, lying, stealing, etc.). Their relationships suffer. Their academics suffer. Try as caregivers …

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